You are viewing kuhpuh

Tired of ads? Upgrade to paid account and never see ads again!

Life Magic

Things I'm Working On Creating

--a place to live near mountains or sea.

--my parents getting all the care they need.

--podcast or vlog with my mother.

--a job that I love that provides enough funds for low to no money-related stress.

--positive mindsets a large percentage of time.

--a social circle of loyal, non-judgmental, hilarious friends.

--better physical and mental health.

Found this on FL. By annamaria6.

I thought girls liked to be told they are pretty...

"I thought girls liked to be told they are pretty," my kid said to me in the car.

"Well," I said, taking a deep breath because I was about to lay some knowledge down, "some girls do, I guess. But you know what? I don't. I think in a world where we have millions and millions of words, pretty is kind of lazy. What does pretty mean? It doesn't really mean anything. And pretty changes. What was pretty twenty, fifty, a hundred years ago means nothing now. You can go to the Hallmark store and find fifty cards telling a girl she's pretty. You can do better than that."

"What do you mean?"
"I thought girls liked to be told they are pretty," my kid said to me in the car.

"Well," I said, taking a deep breath because I was about to lay some knowledge down, "some girls do, I guess. But you know what? I don't. I think in a world where we have millions and millions of words, pretty is kind of lazy. What does pretty mean? It doesn't really mean anything. And pretty changes. What was pretty twenty, fifty, a hundred years ago means nothing now. You can go to the Hallmark store and find fifty cards telling a girl she's pretty. You can do better than that."

"What do you mean?"

"If you want to compliment a girl, go deeper than pretty. What do you think is pretty about her? What makes her beautiful? Tell her you like how the sun looks in her hair or how her cheeks turn red when she comes into school from the cold outside or how she wrinkles up her nose when she doesn't like the cafeteria food. Tell her you like the look of concentration she gets when she's practicing her orchestra music. Tell her you like to make her smile because it lights up her whole face. Tell her that when she looks up at you through her eyelashes, it makes you catch your breath.

Or you could skip the obvious pretty/petty bullshit and notice more than just the superficial. Tell her you like her brain. Tell her she's smart, and then tell her why. Tell her she uses words that make you get out the dictionary when you get home. Tell her you like how passionate she gets about music, about women's rights, about social justice. Tell her you like her heart. Tell her she's kind and gentle and strong and that you like how she speaks her mind, even if her voice shakes and she's blushing and nervous.

Anyone can tell a girl she's pretty. And sure, she might like it, but in five minutes when another guy tells her the same thing, it will be forgotten. If you want to stand out in her mind, go deeper."

Jan. 26th, 2015

So this article and these photos are great. And I appreciate people liking and sharing it, but...

Don't just like it or share it. I know a lot of people who would, but who would still judge me for my size. Maybe without even realizing it. Friends even. Good friends. I'm not the one they'd set up with a friend, or ask out with a certain group of people, or they wouldn't truly respect the words that come out of my mouth.

Don't be patronizing about it. Believe it. Live it.
People need to start dumping buckets of something on their heads or jumping over fires or putting bugs down their pants on video for Alzheimer's.I'm glad ALS got such publicity, but it effects .001% of the population. Approximately 20,000 to 30,000 live with it at any given time.

It's estimated that 5 MILLION people over the age of 65 have Alzheimer's (doesn't include Early Onset), and the U.S. will see a 44% growth of cases of Alzheimer's by 2025. How old will your parents be in 2025? How old will YOU be? By 2050, more than 115 million people worldwide are expected to have the disease.
Researchers are hopeful that a cure can be found, but they are ridiculously under funded, especially considering Alzheimer's is the #6 cause of death in the US. Alzheimer's research received $504 million in funding from the National Institutes of Health last year, while cancer received more than $5 BILLION. Breast cancer alone got more than Alzheimer's, at $674 million.

What can we do to raise awareness? Let's do SOMETHING or one day it won't be that distant relative, great auntie so-in-so you barely know (bless her). One day it'll be your mother or father, your husband or wife, if we don't find a way to prevent or cure it.

5 solutions to limits by Rita D.

When you run into limits remember these 5 things.
1. You are connected to everything and as apart of all there is, you can accomplish anything that you work towards.
2. Sometimes the walls in your life are because you need new tools or ingedients. Reach out to experts, use the internet, and boldly ask questions. Find new tools and if they dont exist yet invent the tools.
3. Choose Love over fear every time you are making a decision. Love for yourself and everyone involved. Love for all of creation and mother earth herself. Strive to make decisions where everyone wins instead of just yourself. (This is always possible if we look hard enough.)
4. Think outside the box and find a solution that no one has tried before. We dont have to do things the way they have always been done. If we have put a great deal of thought towards something and it still doesn’t make sense maybe there is another path for us.
5. Recognise that everyone is afraid and they are often giving you advice based on their own fears. It doesn’t mean that it cannot be done it just means that they haven’t been able to find a way to do those things successfully.

Talking about Luke.

On Christmas Eve, a woman at work asked me if I had any kids. I paused for a moment.

It was interesting because the week prior, a few coworkers had been talking about being pregnant, giving birth, how much their babies had weighed, etc. I wanted to join in the conversation, but I knew if I added any of my experience, there would be further questions, and I'd end up bringing everyone down. So I just did my crossword and kept mum.

So when my co-worker asked if I had any children, I briefly considered just saying, "no," but I HATE saying that and I thought the woman in question seemed like an understanding sort. We've had many conversations and I like her, so I decided to go with the answer that I'm comfortable with...

I said, after the pause, "I had a son, but he passed away."

Well, my co-worker's eyes got wide (her face is pretty expressive), "OH," she said awkwardly.

I tried to explain, "It doesn't feel right to say no, as if he didn't exist."

"Oh," more awkwardness from co-worker, "OH."

"It just feels weird to say no, you know?"

"Oh."

Then I think, "Should I tell her he was stillborn? Five days before he was due? She might think I lost a 5 year old or 10 year old." As if my loss wasn't as worthy as someone who had. Like by not telling her I was putting one over on her.

I didn't say anything else that night.

Christmas night, I said, "Sorry if I freaked you out last night. I guess I just should have said no." Because her response wasn't the one I'd expected or wanted, I guess. Not really because I cared if I freaked her out.

She said, "Oh, you're fine. I just thought... 'bless her heart'... You're fine."

I feel like I can't talk about Luke. I hate it.
I'm having major back and knee issues and I believe it's being exacerbated by the shoes I've been wearing. I have a pair of Alegria shoes that are a few years old and I've worn them out. I went to the mall and tried on some styles that I've been perusing at the online shop. The one that felt really good was the Khloe style. My old style was Paloma (mary janes). So I know those are good. I need to get something before Mom and I go to Atlanta for the weekend. The ones on sale at the website (almost half price) that I'm thinking about are these:

A) Paloma Pop Hearts

alegriapophearts

B) Red Khloe

alegriaredkhloe

Which do you like better?

I may decide to spend less and get some athletic shoes on sale at Sears, but Alegria are the best I've ever worn.

ETA: I found these Daynas in town, half price, so I want with them... so comfy! I still want some Khloes, too.

alegriasilverdayna2

Tags:

Passion

These memes... always telling you to do what you're passionate about. What if you're not sure what that is?

I found this article, 8 Ways to Discover Your Passion and Live a Life You Love (http://tinybuddha.com/blog/8-ways-to-discover-your-passion-and-live-a-life-you-love/), and one question that stood out was, "If money were limitless, what would you be doing?" That made me think. And I'm still thinking...

Film production? Culinary school? A convention-based company? Definitely something Habima-like.

I'll keep thinking, but I know I need variety.


And just because we're talking about PASSION, I'll add the speech about it from Buffy, during the episode entitled, you guessed it, Passion. Stir, passion, stir! I'm asking for it, universe!


"Passion… it lies in all of us.
Sleeping. Waiting.
And though unwanted, unbidden…
It will stir..Open its jaws and howl.
It speaks to us, guides us.
Passion rules us all and we obey.
What other choice do we have?
Passion is the source of our finest moments.
The joy of love… the clarity of hatred..
and the ecstasy of grief.
It hurts sometimes more than we can bear.
If we could live without passion,
maybe we’d know some kind of peace.
But we would be hollow.
Empty rooms: shuttered and dank.

Without passion…
we’d be truly dead."

— Angelus (BtVS - S2, Ep17)

ETA: OH. I should have just gone to WikiHow. They know everything.

ETA: Another article on passion-finding.

Flirt

I think I was being flirted with today. It's been awhile. I'm usually clueless to it, but this guy let me know he was single, childless, lived alone, and hadn't had a girlfriend since 2000--all in the first two minutes of meeting him. Maybe he just likes to share.

I find it harder to tell if someone is flirting in real life. Online is easier, I guess because people are braver/more forward. Oh, you sent me a dick pic. Guess you wanna put it somewhere in my vicinity. I'm really glad guys don't just pull it out in person to let me know they like me. I'm not sure I would understand that was flirting, either.

Fat joke.

Today at Golden Living Friday bingo, Dad was staring at another table, then turns and looks at me and a little shock goes across his face. "I thought THAT was you, " and nods his head at the other table to the rehab resident who is at least 500 pounds. Then he just grins. Really, Dad? You can barely form a sentence most days, and when you can, THAT is the one you go with? Then I told my mom what happened and she practically busted a gut laughing. Comedians, these two. To be honest, she's better looking than me, so thank you, Elderlies!

Tags:

Profile

Joss is my god
kuhpuh
Kelli, the Queen of Parenthesis
My Space

Latest Month

May 2015
S M T W T F S
     12
3456789
10111213141516
17181920212223
24252627282930
31      

Tags

Syndicate

RSS Atom
Powered by LiveJournal.com
Designed by Michael Rose